MALE IMPOTENCE AND ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION TREATMENTS AND HELP
Everything Men Need To Know About Male Impotence And Erectile Dysfunction (ED)
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Everything Men Need To Know About Male Impotence And Erectile Dysfunction (ED)
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Impotence In Detail
Impotence Causes
Diagnosing Impotency
Impotency Treatments
Impotence FAQ’s
Embarrassing FAQ’s
ED Affects Women
People With Problems
Impotence Myths
Non Surgical Aids
Penis Anatomy
Erections InThe Mind
ED Problem Types
Smoking & Impotence
Disease & Drugs
Drugs & Impotency
Old Age & Impotence
Health & Impotency
Physical Examination
Still Be Intimate
Please Your Partner
Talk About Impotence
Expert Opinions
Talk To A Doctor
Medical Diagnosis
Medical Symptoms
Impotence Causes
Diagnosing Impotency
Impotency Treatments
Impotence FAQ’s
Embarrassing FAQ’s
ED Affects Women
People With Problems
Impotence Myths
Non Surgical Aids
Penis Anatomy
Erections InThe Mind
ED Problem Types
Smoking & Impotence
Disease & Drugs
Drugs & Impotency
Old Age & Impotence
Health & Impotency
Physical Examination
Still Be Intimate
Please Your Partner
Talk About Impotence
Expert Opinions
Talk To A Doctor
Medical Diagnosis
Medical Symptoms
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Talking About Impotence And Erectile Dysfunction
Why is it so difficult for men to talk about a sexual problem? This is particularly the case when it concerns impotence or ejaculation. Most men feel embarrassed and distressed when unable to fulfil their partner’s needs and see it as a reflection of their masculinity.
Some men believe that if they talk about the problem it will get worse, and they hope that next time everything will be fine. Some men may even avoid intimate contact with their partner.
Embarrassment and fear
“90% of men with ED do not receive treatment”
On average, men still wait up to two years before visiting their doctor about a sexual problem. Although the reason for this is mainly embarrassment, there is often also a fear that the doctor might find something seriously wrong with their general health.
Women probably find it easier because we are often asked by our doctors about contraception and our menstrual cycle. We also undergo vaginal examinations – for smears, for example – which give us the opportunity to talk about sexual problems.
That said, I don't think some of us find it very easy to talk about such personal matters.
On average, men still wait up to two years before visiting their doctor about a sexual problem. Although the reason for this is mainly embarrassment, there is often also a fear that the doctor might find something seriously wrong with their general health.
Women probably find it easier because we are often asked by our doctors about contraception and our menstrual cycle. We also undergo vaginal examinations – for smears, for example – which give us the opportunity to talk about sexual problems.
That said, I don't think some of us find it very easy to talk about such personal matters.
Loss of masculinity
"Men just don’t feel masculine if they are unable to maintain an erection"
Men are very different creatures to us women. They don't go down to the pub and tell their friends that they couldn't get an erection last night or that they ejaculated prematurely. A male sexual problem is rarely shared with other men. Men just don't feel masculine if they are unable to maintain an erection.
In contrast, women tend to talk more openly to their friends about difficulties without feeling they are losing their femininity.
Men are very different creatures to us women. They don't go down to the pub and tell their friends that they couldn't get an erection last night or that they ejaculated prematurely. A male sexual problem is rarely shared with other men. Men just don't feel masculine if they are unable to maintain an erection.
In contrast, women tend to talk more openly to their friends about difficulties without feeling they are losing their femininity.
Fear of rejection
“We may be frightened that our partner no longer finds us attractive”
So how do we help men to talk about this sensitive and distressing event? I think women sometimes avoid talking about a sexual problem because we don't want to hear that the reason they have lost the erection may be due to us. We may be frightened that our partner no longer finds us attractive. We may also want to avoid any further embarrassment for our partner by bringing the subject up. However, avoiding talking about it may only lead to further problems in the long run.
Many of us take lovemaking far too seriously. Unless we talk we will never find a way of resolving the problem. I think the best way is to set aside a time when you will not be disturbed, think about what you are going to say and use the right language. After all, this is our approach in so many other aspects of our life so why should this be any different, particularly when it is about something so important.
So how do we help men to talk about this sensitive and distressing event? I think women sometimes avoid talking about a sexual problem because we don't want to hear that the reason they have lost the erection may be due to us. We may be frightened that our partner no longer finds us attractive. We may also want to avoid any further embarrassment for our partner by bringing the subject up. However, avoiding talking about it may only lead to further problems in the long run.
Many of us take lovemaking far too seriously. Unless we talk we will never find a way of resolving the problem. I think the best way is to set aside a time when you will not be disturbed, think about what you are going to say and use the right language. After all, this is our approach in so many other aspects of our life so why should this be any different, particularly when it is about something so important.
Conversation techniques
It's important to use language you're both comfortable with. Avoid using technical terms like 'impotence' or 'erectile dysfunction' if you don't normally speak to each other like this. Use whatever terms feel most natural to you in your relationship.
Also, try to use the word 'I' or 'we' rather than 'you'. And start with a positive statement: this helps people to listen as everyone loves praise and knowing that they did something right.
For instance, you might say, ‘You remember a few days ago when we were making love and we had that wonderful foreplay where your touch was perfect? Then I noticed that you lost your erection for some reason. Being a woman I have no idea what that felt like, but I would like us as a couple to find a way of talking about this.’
It’s a good idea to sit close to one another. Don’t worry too much about maintaining eye contact but holding hands or making physical contact in a way which feels natural to you may help.
Also, try to use the word 'I' or 'we' rather than 'you'. And start with a positive statement: this helps people to listen as everyone loves praise and knowing that they did something right.
For instance, you might say, ‘You remember a few days ago when we were making love and we had that wonderful foreplay where your touch was perfect? Then I noticed that you lost your erection for some reason. Being a woman I have no idea what that felt like, but I would like us as a couple to find a way of talking about this.’
It’s a good idea to sit close to one another. Don’t worry too much about maintaining eye contact but holding hands or making physical contact in a way which feels natural to you may help.
Discussing feelings
It is also important to explain your feelings about what has happened and to ask for his help in coping with the emotions you may be experiencing. Try explaining that you are worried it may be connected to your relationship and how he feels about you, or that you are concerned about his health.
Start by saying something like ‘I know this probably sounds silly but...’ continuing with your own concerns about the erection loss. Encourage him to do the same with you, as he is just as likely to be concerned as you are. In this way, you can act as a team to solve the problem, rather than both of you feeling worried but unable to tackle the issue because you fear raising the topic at all.
Most of all, don't panic or allocate blame. No man will talk openly if he feels that he is being blamed for the sexual problem.
Start by saying something like ‘I know this probably sounds silly but...’ continuing with your own concerns about the erection loss. Encourage him to do the same with you, as he is just as likely to be concerned as you are. In this way, you can act as a team to solve the problem, rather than both of you feeling worried but unable to tackle the issue because you fear raising the topic at all.
Most of all, don't panic or allocate blame. No man will talk openly if he feels that he is being blamed for the sexual problem.
Professional help
I would recommend that you suggest your partner sees his physician, especially since erection problems can often be an indicator of underlying illness like heart disease or diabetes. For some couples, a therapist trained in sexual problems may be helpful.
Erection-Inducing Drugs - Medical Treatments For Erectile Dysfunction
Drugs which induce and strengthen erections can successfully treat Erectile Dysfunction and problems achieving and maintaining a strong erection. Erection inducing and erectile dysfunction drugs work for the majority of men who want stronger erections and can also help men with neurological and spinal problems.
Cialis : Works in the same way as Viagra, and is popular because the erection inducement effects last so long - often more than 12 hours. The Cialis erections are not blocked by food in the stomach.
Levitra : Works in same way as Viagra. Side-effects and interactions of Levitra are similar to those of Viagra. Levitra erections are not as long-lasting as Cialis.
Viagra : Widens the bloods vessels, so giving an erection provided the penis is rubbed. Viagra usually works within an hour. Effect lasts for about four hours. Easily blocked by food in the stomach. Commonest side-effects of Viagra are headache, visual disturbances, blocked nose, flushed face, indigestion, palpitations – and dizziness after getting out of bed too quickly! Blue vision occurs at higher doses. Viagra is very dangerous with certain heart drugs. Interacts with many medications. Do not drink grapefruit juice on day of use.
